But...this is different. I didn't say anything about the invitation at first to Alex. In fact the mom was nice enough to point out that the girls were welcome to stay for the swimming and cake and then go home if they wanted to (I'm thinking that was for our benefit). But...can you imagine me telling Alex to go home while all the other girls stay in their PJ's and slumber bags? That's going to go over well.
Anyway, I said nothing. And then Alex came home from school and mentioned that her friend told her about the party and sleepover. And then she declared she was going. I told her we needed to discuss it with her dad.
The thing is...it isn't fair to say no. She is going to be 10 years old in less than 2 weeks. She is on the insulin pump and has been super responsible. How can I tell her she can do anything with diabetes .... oh but sleepovers are out!
So I mulled it over and finally realized I needed to make a decision. I called the mom this morning and discussed it with her and let her know that if anything I asked of her or said concerned her to the point of not having Alex over, I'd rather she tell me than try not to hurt my feelings. Then I explained there were 4 basic things I would ask of her in order to have Alex spend the night:
- Carb Counting: Help Alex count the carbs in all the food she eats. I suggested if she provide a list of foods, I could print a list of carbs for Alex and her to have. Alex could call me at anytime as well to ask for advice on carbs.
- Low Blood Sugar Protocol: I explained the rule of 15 and how to handle blood sugars below 80. I also explained that they were to call me with any readings below 80.
- Middle of the Night Check: This was the biggest thing to ask of her - to get up about 3 hours after the girls go to sleep and wake Alex and have her test herself. If she is below 150 to give her a snack I will provide. I also plan to set temp basal settings on her pump so she runs a tad higher for the sleepover.
- Glucagon: I will bring her glucagon and explain how and when it would be used (while assuring her to date it is not something we have ever had to use so it isn't something she should expect to use but always should know what and how to use it in an emergency)
The mom was super nice and said she was on board with having Alex over for the night. I told her to think about it and talk to her husband first and call me back tomorrow. I don't know that I would be okay with it, you know? But I might be unsure what to say if I was her and need some time to think it through so I wanted her to have that time. It is a lot to ask of someone with no background in diabetes.
So we'll see what happens...I'm scared to death. I won't sleep Saturday night. I'm sure of that. But what else can I do? It's one night...it's only a few miles away...we can be in communication easily with the cell phones...I can set temp basals on her pump to run her higher...it's better to let her live her life than to keep her from being a normal 10 year old tween girl who just wants to experience what everyone else gets to experience, right?